Wedding registry etiquette: the dos and don’ts of asking for cash
Wedding registries have changed so much over the past decade! For our parents and even older siblings, they were all about fine china, toasters, and towels. But these days, so many couples are already living (and full-on adulting) together and have already curated their homes. In fact, with so many young couples living in apartments or smaller spaces in general, the last thing you need is more “stuff.” Literally, where would it go?
So, what do we really want? Experiences and $$$ to put toward milestones like a honeymoon or our first home. And while there was a time when “asking for cash” would have been considered taboo, these days it’s perfectly acceptable. The key, though, is how you ask.
If you’ve started the hunt for your perfect wedding registry, you’ve no doubt seen a few that allow you to register for experiences rather than physical products. But, like with so many services, a lot of these have hidden fees (for you, your guests, or both). So, it’s important to know which ones are legit and which ones to avoid. But, before you flip to your perpetually open ChatGPT tab, that’s why you have us! We’ve done the digging so you don’t have to, and here’s what we found—Honeyfund.
Honeyfund is completely free for U.S. couples and guests—no awkward deductions, paid subscriptions, or processing fees; every dollar goes to the couple. It feels like a new registry platform is popping up every week, but you want to go with one that is tried and true. Honeyfund has been around for a while now and has been used by nearly 1.6M couples who’ve received almost $1B in gifts—so this ain’t their first rodeo.
So now that you know where to register, let’s talk registry etiquette…
be specific.
When you create your Honeyfund registry, you can create specific registry items for each experience. Be as specific as you can. For example, don’t just create a honeymoon item; break it down into flight, hotel, and specific excursions. It makes your guests feel more included when they know exactly what they are contributing to.
where should the registry be listed?
It is completely acceptable to share your registry information, but knowing where and when is key. It is customary to list the wedding registry on bridal shower invitations as well as in your wedding invitation suite. Instead of putting it on the main card, create a separate wedding registry card to be included in the envelope. To make things easy, there should also be a registry tab on your wedding website.
the wording
We wouldn’t leave you hanging without telling you what to actually write on your invites. Here you go; just copy and paste, then add the URL or a QR code that links to your Honeyfund.
“Your love and support are more than enough, but if you're looking for ideas, you can find our registry at [Website Link].”
Beyond just weddings
You can use your Honeyfund registry beyond the wedding day, too. Many couples create an anniversary fund to keep the honeymoon going—whether it’s a weekend getaway, bucket list trip, or meaningful time together each year.
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